Pros and Cons of Marrying in Your 20s
Like marrying at any age, there will always be pros and cons to marrying your partner. On a cool Valentines Day evening, Austin proposed on the beach pier of February 2017, we were both shy of turning 23. After 8 years of dating, he finally slid a ring on my finger. At the age of 25, I officially became Mrs. Valdes.
After publicly announcing our engagement, friends and family were absolutely elated with the news. I remember my mom crying tears of happiness.
But, with engagement and marriage comes a deeper level of responsibility and commitment that we weren’t prepared for. It felt as if we had to plant, nurture, and grow a new relationship. Practicing patience, pushing past temptations, handling emotions, the list goes on.
Many think it’s unorthodox to marry in your 20s however, the average age for a woman to marry is 27 and 29 for men. I mean, Beyonce married Jay-Z at 27.
During our engagement, there were days that were undeniably some of the best moments I’ve experienced in life but, we also had our share of dark days.
Over the years, I’ve created a continuing, personal list of pros and cons of marrying in your 20s.
You have someone to grow with.
You have someone to learn the ropes of “adulting” with, during some important years.
You don’t have to worry about finding a date to socials.
You’ll have a best friend to heavy confide in. Your personal secret keeper.
You will have more energy to balance your career and parenthood.
Your sex-life’s still bomb.
You have less pressure to start a family.
You can have grand-kids when you’re relatively young.
Your parents are more likely to be around to help you.
You will learn from each other and share mistakes.
You’ll have the ability to plan out your future adulthood moves.
You’ll become more realistic about finances.
Access to unlimited 24/7 venting sessions with your husband.
With the right man, you’ll become a better vision of you
You may grow apart from each other.
You may face temporary financial instability.
Heavier budget restrictions.
You must learn how to quickly get over small arguments. Trust me, there will be more down the road.
You have little-no real life experience.
You may depend on that person financially.
Every relationship will have its flaws but it’s up to both partners to work through it.